No! This is YOUR birth experience- not mine. My hope is to encourage and support partners and Moms through the process. Not to manage, or overtake.Â
While a lot of support does go to Mom- nearly just as much support goes to her partner. In labor, Dads are often seeing Mom in a way they've never seen her before. It's really hard to see your loved one in pain, especially when you don't know what to do or try to help it.
Prenatally, I encourage partners to be part of the meetings. I provide information and tips specifically for partners- including a "Birth Partner Cheat Sheet" so they feel prepared for labor and birth.Â
During birth I read the room, and use my experience and expertise to anticipate Moms needs. Sometimes that means suggesting ways to help them be more involved- with tips for comfort measures, or it may be going to start a bath, getting food, or simply just offer them time to rest and take space. Other times, I might be the extra set of hands, doing all the other things so Dad can be fully present with Mom.
Oftentimes when Mom has "wobbles" or worries during labor, Dads/Partners wobble too. I am there to ease fears and anxieties, and help you birth feel more confident and supported.